Sherril's favourite quote....

"......so that we can do great things in future"

By Dorae-ong

Saturday, May 31, 2008

Cherish them...

Been away for almost a month huh? Very sorry everyone! I didn't online and didn't have the time to blog during my 3 weeks break because my time was packed with trips to Redang Island, Taman Negara (National Park). And I couldn't online when I went back my hometown, my notebook just couldn't detect my home's wireless.

Then when I came back, I'm busy finding my besties and sisters because they just came down to Setapak to continue their Advance Diploma in TARC. I helped them to move in, had dinner and even overnighted at their place. The rest of the time I spent it in classes, meetings, midnight movies in cinemas, watching Hong Kong series and sleeping. So basically, my time's used up :)

I'll blog about my Redang and Taman Negara trip in the next few blog entires alright? Because I'm still waiting for the arrival of photos. How can I blog a trip without interesting photos??

I'm very free today, though I had class this morning and later I will help my classmates to move house. I suddenly thought of my besties (4 of us), my sisters (whom we call ourselves TOU - Ten of Us), my twin, friends and family. I thought of how we were bonded and ended up getting inseparable...

True friendship is the most marvelous and precious gift that we have in our life besides family, isn't it?

I've been hearing about how those s0-called friends in college backstabbed my friends and used them for their own benefits. I personally feel lucky enough because other than the heart-broken incident which happened to me in foundation, those friends that I meet in degree are NORMAL people. At least they are true in friendship and I even have special bond with some of them.

It's true that many people just come and go in your life. Those are merely passer-bys in your life. However, when it comes to true friends, they won't just come and vanish. They may be far apart from you, they may not keep in touch with you always, but their heart will always have a space for you for every second....

Well, below is a true story which happened to my bestie not long ago:

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One of my bestie, Mei Fern told me about a close friend of hers in college. Let's just call this particular bitch **Steph.

Many people have told my bestie about the bad things about Steph. Her friends, including all my besties have warned her to keep a distance with Steph. Being the soft-hearted one, my friend forgave Steph for her 1st mistake, 2nd mistake, 3rd mistake until the Nth mistake. She always feels that Steph is not that bad as what people said about her in college and she always forgives her.

Until one day, when my bestie finally fall down, only then she realised how stubborn she was all this while to keep walking although she knew that she should stop walking. Although it's not her fault and Steph kept hurting her, my bestie still forgave Steph and tried her very best to save their frienship.

This bitch is truly a bitch. I've never called a person a bitch before, not even that damn person who left me with sad memories 1 year ago. Steph is too good in acting, and that's why my bestie fell into her trap and forgave her sooo many times.

Because my bestie trusted Steph, she told Steph about her point of view towards**Lily. Well, just point of view, no big deal right? I mean, of course we have our own opinions and we are just voicing them out without wanting to create any unwanted arguments or whatsoever.

Of course Fern knew that Steph and Lily are good friends but because she trusted Steph, only she told her about her opinion. I want to emphasize that, the opinion she gave was just what impression she had about Lily. It wasn't meant to hurt Lily or what. Those who know my bestie well will know she meant that. And I'm sure Steph knew very well what my bestie's opinion was all about.

However, for some unknown reason, this bitch turned my friend's words into some other meaning which created misunderstanding between Lily and Mei Fern. Then somehow this bitch backstabbed my bestie in front of Lily. In the end, my friend realised the true face of Steph and gave up this useless, fake friendship between them.

After the incident, between sobs while talking over the phone with my bestie, Steph even claimed that in her life, she only has 2 close friend. One is Lily and the other one is my bestie. Damn her, do you think a CLOSE friend will ever hurt and backstab you? So fake of her! She must be stupid to think that after so many incidents, my friend will still believe that kind of lame statement.

I told my bestie, "What's the use of maintaining the friendship between you two? She's never real, and has been using you for so many times. And this time she even backstabbed you. You've now come to KL and she isn't coming to KL, so why do you need to care about her anymore? You're not going to meet her anymore, then just make a clear statement to yourself and leave this girl behind your memories. This kind of friend is not worth your tears.. because TRUE friend will NEVER backstab and use you. Just treat her as a passer-by in your life, and don't get involve in her things anymore because if you were to be involved, the pain that you will have to endure will be much more... which is not worthwhile, at all."

I don't want my bestie to endure the pain that I've went through. Sometimes, soft-hearted just won't work. Reality is reality and it's always a pain for us to accept reality. I hate those people who hurt my loved ones.. I wanna whack that stupid bitch!!!!
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People often say that in college and university, it is very hard to find true friends. Hmm... how to say? In uni, I have many hi-bye friends. My coursemates are great people, not to say we are very very close, but still, at least I know my coursemates aren't those sort of people who will hurt the others. I'm glad that I met my twin and 3 of us are best friends =) (me, twin and shyuan)

Through MSN, I've met many more UTAR-ians. I'm glad that many of them have become my good friends who are always there for me to share my joy and sadness together. What I would like to say is, treasure those great friends that you have because in life, you won't meet so many great friends, who are completely true in friendship.

Cherish your friends, and cherish the moments that you spent together. Without them, your life won't be as bright as it is now. I love all of you, my friends~!!!

p/s: Names with ** are not their true names. This is to protect their identity and privacy.

Note: I know I've blogged about how bad I did in Maths finals. I swear I wasn't exaggerating when I was blogging. Anyway, just to inform all of you, I passed my Maths!!! =)

-sherril=xuele-

7 FOOTPRINTS:

C~H said...

Firstly, glad to hear that u passed your maths.So no worries anymore rite..hehe..Work harder this sem cause you had learned your lesson and i had learned my lesson too from the previous sem..Well i very agree with what u had blogged about..There are no regrets losing those people who backstabbed and use their own friends for their own benefits..Damn f**king friend that what i will call..Is very true in university and college it is very hard to find true friends but i wouldn't said there are none..Most of our true friends usually come from secondary school which will always share ups n downs with us no matter how far there are..AS what u had said they might be thousand miles apart from us but we are in their heart..Treasure all your true friends as it is very hard to find not just in university but along our journey of life too..To have 1 true friend is better to have 10 fake friends or hi-bye friends...To me sumtimes i feel those friends in MSN is better than some friends in reality..Do u agree?hehe...

Sherril 雪乐 said...

Yeah yeah we both had passed our maths thank god!! We must really work hard this sem.. gambate!! And to KeLvin, don't be sad anymore k? All of us here had learned our lesson so we must work harder....=)

Wahaha yeah MSN friends.. Many of my friends now are friends whom I made through MSN. Though we don't always meet, but they are of course better than hi-bye friends. So Kevin, I totally agree that MSN friends are better than some in reality. You are one of the best example =)

Anonymous said...

possibly the reason why MSN friends seem like better friends is because they don't really have to chance to hurt you.

C~H said...

Sherril,you jia you too...haha...hope we can be good friends lo in the future...not only MSN friends...hehe...

~K£cќ~ said...

O.o thx I'm not that sad la ... expected rite? XDXD ... Work harder bah ^^ gambateh to all of us

Sherril 雪乐 said...

XJ: yeah that might be a possibility =)

Kevin and Kelvin: Yeah hehe and gambate~!! Pls support FEStival and WFC =)

C~H said...

WFC stand for We Fight Cancer...haha...not welcome freshmen concert...